Welcome to the former home of Kitty Cavalier. The persona of Kitty has gone into retirement, but as the woman behind the woman, I’d like to formally introduce myself:

Hello! I’m Mary Lofgren.

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A Fine Farewell, A Warm Hello

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When I started my business six years ago, I did so as my burlesque persona, Kitty Cavalier.  Having grown up a shy, awkward, quiet girl, Kitty Cavalier gave me the courage to be whoever I wanted to be.

As Kitty, I could get up on a stage and tantalize hundreds of people.  I could say whatever was on my mind at any time.  Armed with my red lipstick and fur collared cardigan, in the persona of Kitty, I felt like could do anything.

But as my friend Marianne likes to say, everything is medicine or poison depending on how you look at it.

At that time, Kitty Cavalier was the exact medicine I needed.

Shortly after starting my business I experienced a few life altering events. My 11-year marriage ended very abruptly. Less than a year later my father passed away after a sudden bicycle accident. I decided I needed a change, so I packed up the New York City apartment I had called home for 14 years and headed south to a small mountain town in Western North Carolina.

At first, I hated it! Far away from my friends and the only life I had ever known, everything felt new, difficult, and isolating. But there was something else brought to my attention.  Without the razzle dazzle of life in New York City, the persona of Kitty Cavalier felt alien to me.

I knew how to be Kitty Cavalier in the classroom, onstage, and in the intensity of city life, but with all of that stripeed away, I realized that I had no idea how to actually be with myself.

This sent me down a spiritual path more earnest and sobering than anything I had done before.  I knew from my spiritual experiences in burlesque that stripping away the layers was the only way to find what I was really made of.  But rather than stripping away my clothing, it was time for a stripping of my identity.

Life became very, very simple. If sensuality, seduction, and spirituality were all to intersect as I firmly believed they did, I had to find a way to do it that didn’t depend on wearing a mask or existing as a fantasy.

I embarked on a journey of going back to retrieve the shy, innocent, tender self I was before Kitty, and bring her full circle. Sacred Seduction® has always been a practice of attraction through authenticity. In fact, it is that precise aspect of this work that has prepared me to be so real with you, and to make this announcement.

While the persona of Kitty has provided tremendous courage, wisdom and brilliance to my life and the lives of others, it is only one aspect of who I am and what I have to offer. 

So today, we say farewell to Kitty, and hello to the woman who has been her source the whole time.

Mary is my birth name.  As a girl I hated the virginal nature of my name. But as a woman, I couldn’t be more honored to bear a name so synonymous with feminine grace, love, power and mystery.

So here I am.


Nothing more, nothing less.

Sacred Seduction is a brilliant body of work that has touched the lives of many.  I am so very grateful and proud to have authored it, and even more proud of the way it has laid the foundation for this evolution.

Thank you for being a part of this community.

Thank you for loving Kitty into existence.

Thank you for joining me on the path of Sacred Seduction.

Thank you for evolving with me into what’s next.